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Signs your child is being bullied, and what to do

Edusky Private School · Parents' Guide · Last reviewed: 2026-10-18

In short

- Signs of bullying include fear of school, sudden loss of friends, trouble sleeping, nightmares, headaches, stomach aches, or absenteeism.[1]
- Listen calmly, believe your child, and tell them it is not their fault.[1][1]
- You and your child do not have to face this alone.[1]

What bullying looks like

Bullying is a pattern of behaviour where there is a power imbalance.[1] UNICEF describes several signs that a child may be experiencing bullying.[1]

Signs to watch for

A child who is being bullied may show some of these signs:

- Fear of going to school or joining school events[1]
- Losing friends suddenly or avoiding social situations[1]
- Not sleeping well and having nightmares[1]
- Complaining of headaches, stomach aches, or other physical ailments[1]
- Absenteeism, or calling from school asking to go home[1]

What parents can do

UNICEF recommends that parents listen to their child openly and calmly.[1] Tell the child that you believe them; that you are glad they told you; that it is not their fault.[1] Then talk to the teacher or school, and ask whether the school has a bullying policy or code of conduct.[1]

For your child, having a supportive parent is essential to dealing with the effects of bullying.[1] Make sure they know they can talk to you at any time and reassure them that things will get better.[1]

Remember: you and your child do not have to face bullying alone.[1]

How to prevent bullying

Children can prevent bullying by being inclusive, respectful and kind to their peers.[1] If they witness bullying, they can stick up for the victim, offer support, and question bullying behaviours.[1]

What if your child is the one bullying?

If you think or know that your child is bullying other children, it is important to remember that they are not inherently bad, but may be acting out for a number of reasons.[1] Understanding why your child is acting out will help you know how to help them.[1]

FAQ

My child says they are being bullied. What should I do first?

Listen to your child openly and calmly.[1] Tell them that you believe them; that you are glad they told you; that it is not their fault.[1]

Should I contact the school?

Yes. UNICEF advises talking to the teacher or school, and asking whether the school has a bullying policy or code of conduct.[1] You and your child do not have to face bullying alone.[1]

What if my child won't tell me what's wrong?

Look for changes in behaviour: fear of school, avoiding friends, trouble sleeping, or unexplained physical complaints.[1] Make sure they know they can talk to you at any time.[1]

Sources

Sources last verified: 2026-10-18

  1. UNICEF. Bullying: What is it and how to stop it. https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/bullying. Accessed 2026-10-18.

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